Monday, February 27, 2006

Because you let me

You let me walk all over you. And you still love me.

I know I can say anything I want without fear of losing you, do anything I feel like and still have you understand, be anything I want to be and you'll still support me. Because you let me be myself.

When I'm down in the dumps and vent all my frustration on you.....you let me. Because you understand. You listen to all my rants, my crazy ideas, my impossible dreams, my unreachable goals, my endless aspirations. And you teach me to aim higher. You make me believe in myself. And you never give up hope. Never.

And through all my crazy changes, from changing names to careers to geographic locations, you've given me unwavering support. Without questioning me. Even once.

You keep on giving. Trust, love, understanding. Unconditionally.
And I keep on taking. Everything. For granted.
And I keep coming back for more.


I never thank you enough........ To my parents with gratitude, M

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33 Comments:

Blogger Prerona said...

isnt it nice having someone to take for granted like that?

7:01 PM  
Blogger Cinthia said...

Can we, um, trade parents? :)

10:58 PM  
Blogger GhostOfTomJoad said...

Sounds like the surge of emotion one feels after a particularly difficult time. Hope it worked out well. It's nice to be able to say these things, isn't it? If one can :-)

11:13 PM  
Blogger True Blue Guy said...

Parents are the only ones who will love you endlessly whatever you do. No other relationship is as strong in my opinion.

They are the only ones who will care forever and in my opinion even long after they have gone.

Maybe we will understand when WE become parents (I'm not yet one, dunno bout you :))

To Parents, the world around - We cherish y'all

cheers & very lovely post

12:03 AM  
Blogger Ron said...

Awww...M! u made me want to cry! All Ive been doing in the last few days is venting out all my frustrations on my poor parents. I know they are worried sick about me but I just havent been able to reach out and tell them Ill be fine and that I love them.

I shall do so today itself! Thanks for such a lovely post.

12:24 AM  
Blogger Casablanca said...

Hope you have a way of conveying this to your parents as well. At times, we find it very embarrassing to acknowledge people in real life... I think we should.

2:17 AM  
Blogger Grafxgurl said...

you know.. the kind of relationships we have with our parents.. we will NEVER find that anywhere else.. even when we haev our doubts they suprise us with so much support...

am so glad you appreciate them.. so many people dont.i dont nearly as much as i should.

2:21 AM  
Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

@ prerona it is but I feel so guilty about taking their love and support for granted. I wish I could appreciate them more and tell them how much it means to me. But somehow I never seem to be able to express the way I feel.
@ cinthia come on now....just because you had a little hiding to do :))
@ ghostoftomjoad this was after I made another unreasonable demand of their effort and time :) You see when you live away and you need something done back home, there's no one else that you can turn to but your parents. I know I can call them up and say this needs to be done and be assured that it will get done. No matter what. And I ask without even realizing how much trouble I might be putting them through.
@ tbg I guess parents are the most under appreciated people around. They love you and give so much and yet get very little in return. And the sad part is that they give so much of their own lives to make sure you have yours, and still expect so little from you. I don't know what it will be like to be a parent myself, but I think you become a whole new person.
@ ron you should...give them a hug today. All they ever want is for us to be happy.
@ casablanca it's always hard to tell the people you love how much they mean to you. But I hope they know.
@ grafxgurl neither do i. I never tell them for one. And I scold them every time something happens that I don't like. My mom thinks that I have moved away from her and don't love her much. Which is probably because I keep trying to change her. Yet my mom's always been my closest friend and I love her like crazy. And may be because I expect so much from her I keep getting into fights with her. I hate to hurt the people who love me more than life itself.I just wish I could make them understand how much they mean to me.

9:18 AM  
Blogger Rapid I Movement said...

Ektu barabari laaglo...defi all parents don't give "unwavering support" to their kids...but yeah, the love...and the fact that they'd always be there and look out for us...that's true.

9:32 AM  
Blogger Jinguchakka said...

:-)
It sounded like you were talking of your man!

Hmm...

10:28 AM  
Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

@ rapid i movement well I wasn't talking about parents in general. These are MY PARENTS I'm talking about and they have always given me more than I deserve. Unwavering support in everything. And when I say everything, I mean it.
I'm sorry for those who have not had parents like mine. And I'm glad there are atleast some who have parents like mine. May be they can appreciate what I'm talking about here.
@ jinguchakka :) Well him too....but that will be another post. Or yet another....

11:22 AM  
Blogger Ashmi said...

oh! this was so touching and so true. i gues they are the ones who love us no matter how incorrigible we may be....a true unconditional love, i say.....hey! hope you're not mising your parents to much, coz this post seem to reflect that :)

1:52 PM  
Blogger Ratna said...

How sweet like all your other posts :)

3:12 PM  
Blogger Seashells said...

>:D<

I've been so frustrated these days that i get irritated and raise my tone everytime my mom enquires about certain issues... and then i feel worse... My dad on the other hand has tried not to show his worry and extreme concern but rather he'z been my unwavering support... his cool and confidence in me is so envigorating...

I go back in time and can think of hundreds of instances of GREAT parenting... i wonder if i'd atleast be a shadow of what my parents are... ofcourse my turn will take a while... but still ...

5:01 PM  
Blogger Ghetufool said...

m,
got disappointed at the last. ok, we love our parents, but you should not have cheated us like this.

5:48 PM  
Blogger biju said...

I get irritated when my parents get worried about me. It's probably because I've never been able to tell them that I can handle things and they really shouldn't worry themselves like that. And like they always tell me, I am still a kid to them.

11:07 PM  
Blogger True Blue Guy said...

I think its like 'Pay it forward' - We are going to do the same for our kids :-)

cheers

12:50 AM  
Blogger Patient Portnoy said...

Hi, treaded really softly...

How often do you come across a blog that touches on this? We seem to be trying to out-write and out-comment others, but nobody writes on such stuff.

God, I miss them, I miss them so much. From my station in office, I can see the planes taking off, and... There will never be anybody like them, and yet I can't say that to them. I scream and fight, and then when their visit ends, I am lost.

Sorry M

5:20 AM  
Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

@ ashmi I do miss them. Always. But I'll get o see them this summer when they visit. I'll be seeing them after 4 years. So I'm allowed a little homesickness, right?
@ ratna thanks :)
@ seashells isn't it horrible how we flare up everytime parents touch upon sensitive issues. We believe we can take care of ourselves and wish they'd leave us alone. We hardly ever realize that they do that because they care. And they worry. But inspite of it all they'll be there when you turn to them for support.
@ ghetufool I was not trying to cheat :)) Okay may be a little. Next time I'll be more explicit.
@ biju you'll always be their kid, no matter what and they'll always worry about your well being.
@ t.b.g. may be we will. Time will tell.
@ patient portnoy thanks for stopping by. And thanks for the nice comment. We all miss them when we are away from them. And like you say when they are not there we're lost. Thanks!

9:21 AM  
Blogger Kumari said...

Beautiful.
Beautiful & more beautiful :)

11:21 AM  
Blogger Grafxgurl said...

i really do understand... my relationship with my mom isnt what i would like it to be,when we're apart.. we miss each other.. but when we're together.. we fight til i hate coming home...i just cannot explain it... i dont know why things liek this happen

12:25 PM  
Blogger Inkblot said...

well done

1:08 PM  
Blogger A.G.Sudarshan said...

Complete... :)

3:39 PM  
Blogger Wrong number said...

If I had a heart, this post would have touched it...
;)

1:38 AM  
Blogger Patient Portnoy said...

Four years? Make the best of the summer... Hugs :-)

3:35 AM  
Blogger Bonatellis said...

where did my comment go !!!

6:54 AM  
Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

@ kumari thanks again. And again. And again :))
@ grafxgurl I don't know either. I guess that is the normal mother-daughter relationship. May be because we are too alike.
@ inkblot thank you.
@ a.g. sudarshan I wish I could make my side of the relation more complete by giving back a bit more than I normally do.
@ saale really!!! But I don't believe there was anything original about this post either. But it came from my heart and is absolutely genuine.
Where'd you lose your heart anyways?
@ patient portnoy thanks and yes I can hardly wait :)
@ bonatellis comment korle to dekhte petam.... :(

9:11 AM  
Blogger Wrong number said...

original not equal to 'done for the first time". original = 'created from first principles'.
(MY definitions of original. I wont say this again. Unless stated explicitly as a universal truth, everyting mentioned by me is a personal opinion.)
incidentally, lets just say my heart has looked at the snake lady a little too often...

11:44 PM  
Blogger J said...

That last line makes all the difference
I'm happy to be mature enough to realise that no matter what all those men who walk-in/out of your life say, it's only your parents who are really there for you, always.

5:02 AM  
Blogger M (tread softly upon) said...

@ saale first principles....hmmm, wonder what that means.
@ j well even if there is someone significant in your life your parents are the only people you expect to be there no matter what you do or what you say. Unconditional love.

9:18 AM  
Blogger Phoenix said...

unconditional love. Yes. I understand they love their kids irrespective of who they are ot what they have done but my question is why?Is it because "expected from a parent" or is there a biological reason?

9:27 AM  
Blogger Ashmi said...

oh! yes, dear....am so very happy for you :D

2:12 PM  
Blogger Wrong number said...

to m: doing something from "first principles" means doing it axiomatically. You define your axioms, make observations and then draw conclusions. The conclusion you draw need not be different one from the conclusion that others before you have drawn. Your thought is original because you created it from its most basic idea. And this originality has nothing to do with its novelty or newness (or the lack of it).
to angel-eyes: Interesting thought. I'd say a mother's love is more unconditional than a father's. The baby was an actual part of the mother. The baby was connected. The baby belongs to the mother. As far as the mother sees, the baby isnt really seperated from herself: not after childbirth when the umbilical cord is cut; not after the child starts school; not after the child gets married... NEVER. The father's love is one of choice. The mother's love is natural. The fathers is too, only less so.
Thats my POV anyway. was pleasantly surprised to see you (angel-eyes) here though.

7:00 AM  

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